Supporting Someone experiencing Domestic Abuse
If someone you care about is being abused, it can be hard to know what to say or do. The most important thing is to listen, believe them, and remind them that they are not alone.
✅ How You Can Help
Listen without judgment – let them share at their own pace.
Believe them – many survivors worry they won’t be believed.
Show empathy – use supportive phrases like “I believe you. You don’t deserve this.”
Respect their choices – they may not be ready to leave or report the abuse yet.
Encourage professional support – offer information about trusted helplines or local services.
Help with safety – for example, keep spare documents safe or agree on a code word for emergencies.
💬 Helpful Things to Say
“I’m here for you whenever you want to talk.”
“This is not your fault.”
“You don’t deserve to be treated this way.”
“Would you like me to help you find support?”
❌ What Not to Do
Don’t judge or criticise them for staying.
Don’t confront the abuser — this could put you both at risk.
Don’t make promises you can’t keep (e.g. absolute secrecy if children are at risk).
Don’t try to “rescue” or take over — focus on supporting their choices.
📞 Where to Get Help
In an emergency: Call 999.
National Domestic Abuse Helpline (24/7): 0808 2000 247.